Understanding Bullying:
What It Is and What It Isn’t
Recently, a staff member shared an insightful story. Two students were playing with their dolls when one said, “I don’t want to play your game anymore; we’ve played it for a long time, and now I want to play dress-ups.” The other student, sticking to their role, responded, “You’re bullying me because you won’t play my game.”
This highlights an important issue: the term bullying is often misunderstood. While disagreements and moments of frustration between friends are normal, not every conflict or act of unkindness qualifies as bullying.
What Is Bullying?
Bullying involves repeated, intentional behaviour meant to hurt, humiliate, or isolate someone. It includes a power imbalance, where the person being bullied feels unable to defend themselves or stop the behaviour. Bullying can take various forms, such as:
Physical aggression
Verbal insults
Social exclusion
Online harassment
What Isn’t Bullying?
It’s important to distinguish bullying from other conflicts. Disagreements, arguments, or isolated mean behaviours aren’t bullying. Also, conflict or fights between equals is not bullying, as there is no power imbalance. For example, if someone chooses not to play a certain game, it’s not bullying—it’s a choice. Helping students understand this empowers them to resolve conflicts positively and recognise when support is needed.
The Power of Kindness in Combating Bullying
Explicitly teaching, modelling, and encouraging kindness helps create a culture of empathy and respect. When students understand the value of compassion, they are less likely to engage in harmful behaviours. By promoting kindness as an everyday practice, we encourage students to build positive relationships and stand against bullying and being unkind, mean, spiteful and vengeful.
How Are We Promoting Kindness?
As a Christian school, we believe in showing intentional kindness, reflecting the love God has shown us through Jesus. Kindness is a core school value, and our initiative, You Can Sit With Me, helps students live out this value daily.
Ambassadors from each year level wear badges, signalling they are available to sit with and welcome others. This initiative provides a safe space for students who may feel lonely or need a friend during recess and lunch. Our values of Respect, Kindness and Resilience come from our Christian worldview, which teaches that every person is valuable and made in God’s image.
Living Out Our School Values - Respect, Kindness, Resilience
We consistently model and teach students to show respect by treating others well and putting others’ needs before theirs. Just as God loves and cares for us, the Bible reminds us to love God and, in turn, love others.
God is always kind, compassionate, and slow to anger, and He calls us to show kindness, even when it’s difficult. Jesus’ ultimate act of kindness - dying on the cross for us - sets the standard for treating others. His love empowers us to create a community where everyone feels valued, loved and safe.
Building your child’s self-compassion helps them grow in resilience. Self-compassion helps your child deal with disappointment, failures or mistakes by being kind to themselves. In turn, this helps them to move on from difficult experiences.
Implementing PeaceWise
This year, we’ve introduced PeaceWise, a whole-school approach to relationships and conflict resolution. Although we’re still in the early stages, it’s already positively impacted. PeaceWise helps us develop a common language and approach to building a Christ-centred relational culture. Through this program, we aim to be transformational in shaping every interaction to reflect the Gospel. Our staff are excited to implement this approach, which provides intentional opportunities for students to learn how to manage relationships and conflict in healthy, constructive ways. We’re already seeing the benefits. Recently, a younger student shared how they resolved a disagreement about the swing. They said, “We sorted the argument and made peace!”
By fostering a culture of intentional kindness and Gospel-shaped conflict resolution, we help our students thrive and build relationships that reflect God’s love daily.
Bethany Armstrong - Principal